Saturday, June 16, 2012 | By: Anita

On friendships

We all have friends of some sorts: great friends, that we know life would be miserable without.

The friends that cheer us up just to give a friendly wave to, or stop for a chat in the grocery store with.

Some of us have the worst of the breed 'frenimies'. Oh yes, I've had a fair share of those kind - sure we all have them!

Virtual friends, on social networking sites such as Facebook and the blog-o-sphere, who can provide a wealth of support and friendship, most of whom we'll never actually meet or even possibly speak to.

I know there are seasons in friendships. I get that there’s a natural, healthy ebb and flow in relationships. But sometimes things just seem to change.

I’m not talking about a fight. Or a falling out. Sometimes you just sense a shift… something’s different…

Nobody likes letting go. From our earliest moments, from birth till we’re six feet under, our instinct is to grab, grip, cling. To a finger, a bottle, a best friend…

Sometimes we hold on for dear life to the very things that keep us from actually living it. But that comes with an upside - it’s the way we feel when we finally let go.

The trick, I guess, is to not find a way around the curve balls life serves up, but to live with them. In halfway happy, uneasy alliance. And to search for new things to cling to, and when we finally find them, to hang on just as tight.

And around and around we go, holding on until the time comes to say goodbye.

So, I’m wondering…

Do you initiate a conversation about it? Or do you wait to see if the other person brings it up?

Does it depend on who it is? How so?

Or do you just ride the whole thing out and silently let that chapter of your friendship come to an end?

How do you handle subtle changes in relationships?

Blessings

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